What the words mean

Every term and short form used on KinkEU, explained plainly for someone meeting it for the first time. Search for a word, or open any term on its own page.

Adults, 21 or over

Everybody here is 21 or over and said so before coming in.

Private by default

A new account is in no search and on no map.

You pay directly

Money you pay a provider directly never passes through us.

bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism

Short form BDSM

The umbrella term for a wide set of consensual practices between adults. It is a family of interests, not one activity.

Example Their profile lists BDSM among their interests.

What it is not Not a single act, and not the same as sadism and masochism on their own, which are one part of it.

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How each entry is written

Each entry says what the term means on KinkEU, gives one example of how it is used, and says what it is not when it is often confused with something else. A role is never a gender, so no entry says who holds it. An entry explains a word. It is not a guide to doing anything.

The same words in the app

These are the definitions the app shows when you tap a term. They are written once, so the meaning here and the meaning on a profile are always the same.

Anybody may leave

You can end anything you agreed to here, alone and without a reason.

Who leads here

A female led world that every member chooses: women, trans women and non binary people lead.

Events and venues

Listed by the people who run them, with the rules written down.

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