How you search with these words
You pick the words that matter to you rather than typing a sentence and hoping. Because both sides use the same list, a search for a word finds the people who chose that word for themselves, and not the people who happened to use it in a paragraph. You can hold a search to one city, or to a distance from where you are standing, and you can add more words to make it narrower. Nothing you search for is shown to anybody, and searching does not tell the people you find that you looked.
What a card tells you before you open it
A search gives you cards, one for each person. A card carries the words that person chose, so you can see what they actually offer before you read anything else. It shows any badge they hold, which names one fact we checked. It shows roughly how far away they are, never an address. It does not show a price, because a price belongs to them and lives on their own page. Open the card and you go to that page.
Thirteen groups, so a long list stays findable
The words sit in thirteen groups: how and where, dynamic and structure, practices, role play, fetish and focus, psychological, financial, remote, adult services, company and social, teaching, production and looks, and access needs. The groups exist so that a list this long can be read at all. They also stop the same idea being written five different ways by five people, which is what makes a search useless. You can look through a group without knowing the word you want.
Every word says what it means, and what it does not
Tap any word and you get three things: what it means, an example, and what it does not mean. The third one matters most, because several of these words are used differently by different people, and a few of them mean two entirely separate things depending on who is speaking. Where that explanation is not in your language, it is shown in English.
There are no prices in this list
A word here never carries a price. The person offering sets what they charge, and you see it on their own page, in their own words. We never set a price for anybody, never suggest one, and never show a range, because a suggested price quietly becomes a rule that the people doing the work never agreed to.
A word in this list is not an offer
This list is what can be written down here. It is not what anybody does. Everybody chooses their own words, nobody chooses all of them, and a word being in the list is not us saying somebody nearby offers it. Reading the list tells you what the vocabulary can express. Finding a person who offers a thing is a search, and it may come back empty.
A missing word can be added
If the word you need is not here, ask for it. Words get added when people ask for them, each with its meaning, its example and its limit. A word not in your language is shown in English.